Sometimes you just gotta carry on


Disclaimer: I’ve never actually done this.

Sometimes I wonder where our society is heading. Like seriously…there have been so many things recently that are kind of putting a damper on my life (more so than a gloomy day *GASP*). For example:

  • The whole DOMA & Prop 8 thing
  • SB5 being filibustered out of voting
  • Wendy Davis being celebrated as a hero
  • That priest who was martyred in Syria
  • …and so much more

I read about so many terrible things happening, and hear so much crap about what’s going on. And it gets to me. I’ve actually gotten so used to hearing it that it doesn’t surprise me anymore when I hear about the latest thing being praised by the media. Gay “marriage”? Yup. Abortion on demand? Yes sir-ee. Murdering babies who survive abortion? WHOO-HOO! Would you puh-lease sign me up ASAP?!?!?!

The list could go on forever, but you get the point.

How can anyone not recognize the humanity of the unborn, especially those old enough to survive outside the womb? Beats me. I mean, science tells you they’re human. Ultrasounds show it. But oh-me-oh-my, we are just too smart to go by that, huh?

Have you ever seen those stories of those precious teeny-tiny babies born around 21 or so weeks? They fight for their lives and beat the odds. AMAZING! And did you hear those stories about babies born around the same gestational age during a failed abortion? They were murdered and beheaded, and isn’t that just fab-U-lous?!?!?! Wendy Davis sure thinks so. But I digress.

I’m saying this simply because I’m sick and tired (Bill Cosby says those always have to go together) of people accepting the idea that murder is okay. It’s not. And that’s why I’m going to keep working in this battle that we’re really kinda, sorta, totally getting the upper hand on. I can tell because many of the abortion supporters in TX right now are carrying signs of women’s reproductive parts with swear words on them (which, BTW, that one picture I saw totally looked like a volcano – we might be better artists too). That’s what happens when they don’t get their way. Swearing and yelling, and Cecile Richards sneering at you when you say “God Bless you”. Oh hey, I wonder if she sneered at Obama when he said “God bless Planned Parenthood”. I dunno.

What I do know is that I’m not going away any time soon. As much as I get tired of hearing these things, they really need to be heard. They need to be talked about more, and thought more deeply about. People need to know what’s going on in the world and for crying out loud, DO something about it! That’s why I’m working at pregnancy centers and continuing to write here. It makes a difference. And we all need to do our part in this battle with crazy-pants over there who needs to sit down and talk logic and science. I say, bring it.

And you know all those babies I’ve seen coming into the centers I’m working at? (Just kidding, you don’t, I haven’t mentioned them.) They’re really cute. Guess what else? They wouldn’t be alive if it weren’t for people who fight every day for them. That pretty much makes it all worth it in the end.

Carry on, good soldiers.

Gay Marriage & DOMA: What’s not to love?

This morning when I woke up, I was thinking about the outcome of SB5 in Texas (did you know they called for a second special session?) and the huge impact the Supreme Court decision on DOMA and Prop 8 could have. When I got online, there were all sorts of things people were saying about DOMA and Prop 8: some people were calling this a historic moment, and others sounded defeated. But in fact, it is not the day for either.

The court basically dismissed Prop 8 (which CA voters voted for twice) and we’ll see what happens with this. The court is now on the books as ignoring the voices of millions of CA voters (7 million, I heard).

The significant decision on DOMA confused a lot of people, myself included. Was gay “marriage” legalized? What are the repercussions? What happened (as far as I’ve read) is that the Supreme Court decided to basically leave it up to the states. They didn’t re-define marriage across the board, contrary to what many people are saying. States that do not recognize same-sex “marriage” are not going to be forced to recognize even the legally accepted unions of other states. The parts of DOMA that were struck down were “limited to only those marriages already recognized in the states that allow same-sex marriage”.

There is much more to learn about what this means for America, and I’m sure more information will become available in the coming days.

These rulings are not a reason to have a pity party or a hernia. While this is not encouraging news, it’s actually not the end of the world. I’ve been thinking about this all day and trying to put my thoughts into words. This is my attempt.

Gay “marriage” is not an issue that is going to be swept under the rug soon, or something that we’ll stop talking about. So I wanted to share more of my own viewpoint on this issue with you so you can see where I’m coming from.

As a Catholic, I don’t ever want to see gay “marriage” recognized as valid. It’s not because I hate gay people, or because I’m afraid of them. It’s because the Church recognizes the universal call to holiness, and urges all people to live a life ordered to our ultimate goal of heaven. This means that all people, regardless of sexual orientation, are called to comply with the demands of a chaste life.

Living a chaste life doesn’t mean you’re a prude. This is what it means:

As the Church says in the Catechism:

“Homosexual persons are called to chastity. By the virtues of self-mastery that teach them inner freedom, at times by the support of disinterested friendship, by prayer and sacramental grace, they can and should gradually and resolutely approach Christian perfection.” (2347)

“This inclination, which is objectively disordered, constitutes for most of them a trial. They must be accepted with respect, compassion, and sensitivity. Every sign of unjust discrimination in their regard should be avoided. These persons are called to fulfill God’s will in their lives and, if they are Christians, to unite to the sacrifice of the Lord’s Cross the difficulties they may encounter from their condition.” (2358)

“[T]radition has always declared that “homosexual acts are intrinsically disordered.” They are contrary to the natural law. They close the sexual act to the gift of life. They do not proceed from a genuine affective and sexual complementarity. Under no circumstances can they be approved.” (2357)

As a Catholic, I have a duty to support and uphold the teachings of the Church.

As someone who views marriage between men and women as a sacred institution, today is not the end, but it is a moment of clarification for me to sit down and really think about this. The movement to support traditional marriage is growing exponentially, and I am proud to support it.


And so, my friends, this is why I don’t want gay “marriage” legalized. I do hope that this opens the door for people to discuss these issues honestly and openly. I welcome any discussion you may be interested in.

BSA’s acceptance of gay scouts: Catholic or not?

Legit or not?

When the Boy Scouts of America (BSA) recently made the decision to allow “openly gay” young men to be scouts, at first I was sad to see that. I was mad. I thought, well gee, there goes another organization falling into the pressure given by society! But since then, I’ve had the opportunity to really think about it more. And I’ve realized I was wrong.

I’ve read many articles that basically said well, now we’re just waiting for boys to ask to share tents with their crushes, attempt to solicit bad behavior, and parade around flaunting their sexuality. To some degree, there’s a bit of truth there. Allowing homosexual boys to be scouts certainly provides an opportunity for that to happen. But it’s wrong to think that just because some of those things could happen, we shouldn’t have gay scouts.

You see, as a Catholic, I fall back on what the church says. And what does it say? It says that people with homosexual preferences “must be accepted with respect, compassion, and sensitivity. Every sign of unjust discrimination in their regard should be avoided. These persons are called to fulfill God’s will in their lives and, if they are Christians, to unite to the sacrifice of the Lord’s Cross the difficulties they may encounter from their condition.”

Is banning them from scouting unjust discrimination? I think it could be. After all, if we are to accept and embrace all people, shouldn’t any boy be allowed to be a scout? Looking at this from a Catholic perspective, I wouldn’t be comfortable answering that with anything but a yes. Of course gay scouts should be allowed. We shouldn’t exclude boys because of their sexual orientation.

BUT wait a second! you say. Isn’t this going to cause problems and make other boys uncomfortable? The truth is that I don’t know. It could happen. Will boys be subject to anything more than they would at school with gay classmates? Maybe. But like this article pointed out, there’s an obvious difference between what a Catholic troop would look like and what a more secular one would look like:

“The gay teen in a Catholic troop shouldn’t be sharing with his fellow Scouts his sexual attraction to other males. He can’t talk excitedly about bumping into his crush at the mall or hoping he’ll say yes to the prom. In fact, he can’t take a same-sex partner to a dance or on a date because he must strive to keep same-sex friendships non-romantic.” 

If troops follow the scouting rules and deal appropriately with any sexual issues (homosexual and heterosexual), then there’s no reason why this new rule should be an issue for Catholics. It’s actually good, from a Catholic perspective, to allow gay scouts. It’s what we’re supposed to do. We are to accept and embrace (you might use ‘tolerate’) our fellow human beings simply because we are made in the image and likeness of God.

Homosexual behavior, on the other hand, in an issue in and of itself. And this is where I blurred the issues before. Accepting gay scouts does not mean we need to tolerate immoral behavior – it simply means we accept the people. The Church has clearly outlined the Catholic perspective, and shows us the beauty of the call to chastity of all people with specific instructions for how that is to be carried out (those with same-sex attraction are included). If BSA’s recent decision does eventually give way to the tolerance of homosexual acts, then that’s another story for another day. But for now, carry on scouts.

Gay Marriage: to love or not to love

We are living in a historic moment which has the potential to legalize gay “marriage” in America. I don’t know what’s going to happen, and am extremely apprehensive about this. Why? Well, legalizing gay “marriage” is something I don’t want to happen. And it’s not because I hate gay people (I don’t), or because I want to prevent them from being happy (I don’t). It’s because I want to protect the holy institution of marriage.

This can be a difficult issue to talk about with people who don’t agree with me, because there are many misunderstandings as to what Catholics believe. I found it interesting that even at my Catholic school, there are many, many people here who do have a basic understanding of what the Catholic Church teaches about this. I was even more sad to see friends and family (some of whom claim to be Catholic) showing their support for gay “marriage” on Facebook today.

Here are some of the most common objections I’ve heard:

Gay parents can raise a child just as well as a straight couple. Kids are better off being raised by gay people than in an orphanage!

You know what? Yes. A child can be raised by anyone. However, a child deserves to know both his mother and father. This whole argument is not about kids anyway. It’s about the institution of marriage.

Gay “marriage” isn’t really that big of a deal, and Catholics should just follow along with society by supporting it. There’s no need to go against society and make things difficult.

Actually, the Catholic Church has taken a clear stance against gay “marriage”. As Catholics, there are 5 non-negotiable issues the Church recognizes as morally wrong. They are: abortion, euthanasia, embryonic stem cell research, human cloning, and homosexual “marriage”. As Catholics, these are 5 immoral practices we are compelled and required by our Church to denounce in all circumstances. They are not something we get to choose whether to support or not. God spelled them out for us in the Bible already.

I support the right of people to love whoever they want to love.

Okay. If you want to support marriage “equality” then I’m going to go ahead and assume you’re fighting for all marriage equality  right? That includes “marriage” to family members, to animals, to a rock, polygamy, and heck, why not marry your cat?!?!

I love you! Let’s get married!

If this is just about being equal, then where do we draw the line? Will we stop at animals? If we do, we’re clearly denying people (and animals, GASP – doesn’t that count as animal cruelty?) the right to marry who they want. Do we stop at inanimate objects? I mean, what if a guy brought a case to court trying to prove his hairbrush wanted to marry him? A line has to be drawn somewhere.

The point is, gay “marriage” is not about Catholics, kids, or equality. It’s about a holy institution; a union of a man and woman that is simply impossible between two people of the same gender. As a Catholic, I don’t oppose gay “marriage” because I’m a bigot. I oppose it because I have the duty to uphold the commonsense dignity of the human family.


Read more on this topic:

A gay person’s perspective
Catholic, Gay, and Feeling Fine
Archbishop Salvatore Cordileone speaks at St. Mary's Cathedral in San Francisco on July 27.
An eloquent explanation of Catholic teaching on gay “marriage”


Why I’m Dumping Starbucks

The first time I tried a coffee drink was at Starbucks. It rocked. I’ve loved the smell of coffee for a long time, and discovered that coffee actually tastes wonderful (with a few things added in) that lovey day when I tried that drink with a paragraph-long name….

Why, then have I decided to dump Starbucks?

Because in January this year Kalen Holmes, vice president, Partner Resources employee of Starbucks released a memo saying:

“Starbucks is proud to join other leading Northwest employers in support of Washington State legislation recognizing marriage equality for same-sex couples. This important legislation is…core to who we are and what we value as a company. We are proud of our Pride Alliance Partner Network group, which is one of the largest Employer Resource Groups for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender (LGBT) employees in the U.S., helping to raise awareness about issues in the communities where we live and work.”

“We are deeply dedicated to embracing diversity and treating one another with respect and
dignity, and remain committed to providing an inclusive, supportive and safe work
environment for all of our partners.”

I’ve dumped Starbucks because of this statement supporting gay marriage.

While I don’t take issue with Starbucks supporting diversity and including people from every walk of life, I do have a problem with a company which says gay marriage is “core to who we are and what we value as a company.”

It would make sense for a place like Starbucks to not take sides on controversial issues. I know that doesn’t sound like me (I am so annoyed when people are apathetic and don’t stand up) but I do believe some types of organizations should remain neutral on particularly controversial issues. I mean really, does buying coffee have to be controversial?

It’s hard to buy anything nowadays without finding out it has some connection to Planned Parenthood or some gay marriage cause. If Starbucks had really thought this through, they would have realized that is has cost them much more than what they’ve gained by announcing their support of gay marriage. Think about it. Not many people would refuse to buy coffee because Starbucks didn’t support gay marriage. But now, thousands of people have decided to “Dump Starbucks” because of this.

I stand with my Catholic faith, and everyone who stands for traditional family values when I stand against Starbuck’s decision. I value the family unit as the foundation on what our society was built, and I will not support any attack on that pillar of strength. I will not knowingly support any company which supports the breakdown of the family either, and Starbucks has unfortunately been added to that list.

I’ve signed the pledge, and have dumped Starbucks. Will you?