Job, transportation, housing, and so much more are what we as young adults have to figure out after leaving the comfort of a college campus. When I first heard people use the term “adulting”, it seemed pretty weird. But now that I’m in the throes of figuring out post college life, it seems to accurately describe my feeling toward transitioning into a full-fledged member of society.
Not long ago, it felt like I was standing on the edge of a cliff. Since then I accepted a job offer, graduated from college, and road tripped half way across the U.S. with my family to get home. In the few days between getting home and when work training starts, it’s been crunch time figuring out a new car, financing said car, public transportation to work, insurance, and eventually moving out of my family home (to name a few things). It’s a LOT all at once, and can be overwhelming. But I’m also so, so grateful to have a job.
With this whirlwind transition going on, there hasn’t been much time to think about all the other components of young adult life. You know, forming a new community and whatnot. Adulting is hard, sometimes. There are lots of transitions. And there’s stuff I haven’t begun to deal with yet since graduation was just a week ago. There’s so much I want to do. It’s such an exciting time! But right now I’m focusing on figuring out the basics.
To keep myself sane, I’ve been taking it one step at a time. It can’t all happen at once. [Even if I do have a million tabs open at once trying to put it all together…]
And you know what? It’ll all happen in time. I think that’s an important thing to remember in figuring out all this stuff. We don’t have to have all the answers now, thank goodness!
Here are some reminders for this time:
- Be patient. If you have everything all perfectly laid out, it probably won’t happen that way (ask me how I know, ha!).
- Learn to trust God. He’s got your back, even when everything else seems uncertain.
- Be smart with money. I think it’s a major disservice to young people that so many of us don’t know much about handling money. But I do consider myself in a good position because of the years of hard work put into earning my way through college. I took out far less in loans than many college students, have great credit, and a full time job. But I still have to be smart and make concrete goals – a work in progress! Having goals and good advice in this area I think can help alleviate a lot of worries that go into adulting.
- Give, give, give. As a single young person, there’s nobody depending on me and nobody I’m depending on (in the same way as being a child). Because of that, it’s easy to become self centered. Use this time to give back in ways you couldn’t do later in life. After all, we can only find ourselves in service to others. Donate the time, talent, and treasure that you can!
- Do things you enjoy off the internet. Like to hike or draw or crochet or read? Do it! When things get stressful, slow down your mind in healthy ways that relax you. Spend time with people. Try new recipes. Paint a room. Finish a book. Try a new coffee shop in town. Go to a dance class. Thrift shop. Sew. Play an instrument. Get a little beauty into your life!
It can be a little unsettling figuring life out. And I’m smack dab in the middle of it right now! But it helps to know I don’t have to have all the answers right now. Life as an adult is just beginning for me, and it’s exciting thinking about all the possibilities. Imagine what’s possible when we make the most of our young adult years and work to become the people God made us to be!
Thanks to Rachel and Lindsay for having me host NAS this week! Share your pro tips for adulting in the comment section or the link-up, and let’s help each other out.
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Link up next week with Lindsay to revisit the topic of love languages. Here’s the prompt:
Love languages apply to more than just romance; they help you learn how to make people feel appreciated and cared for in all of your relationships. What is your love language? (Take the quiz at 5lovelanguages.com.) How have you learned to speak someone else’s love language? Do you find it easier to speak some languages than others; if so, which ones? How have you shown or received love in multiple languages?
6 thoughts on “On being an adult”
I can say I have picked up some off-line hobbies this past year and it has improved my creativity. I learned how to loom knit this past year and I picked up Bullet Journaling which is basically a fancy planner but it’s creative so I have enjoyed making it my own.
I still use this saying my mom has always told me, “Don’t plan, God laughs.” It’s so true!
Adulting is hard and sucks but we’ll get through it. 🙂
Amen! Very true about planning. And that’s awesome about offline hobbies. I find that things like that just really clear my mind – so much better than scrolling on the internet. To life!
YES about money management. I was in an okay place when I took the leap to leave my old job, but I would have been *way* better off if I’d had a real budget before I did it. I love YNAB (You Need a Budget) and have accumulated/saved thousands of dollars with it. Beth Anne is a YNABer, too, and I’ve converted two other friends. (Still working on my boyfriend….) So many people are confused about or afraid of money management. The best time to figure it out is when you don’t *have* any money. I started my budget when I was broke!
Oh yeah I didn’t mention ynab in my comment. I honestly think YNAB was way easier to start when I had no money. I think when I started I had like $200 to my name. I was in school and only working part-time. So I only have to worry about funding a few categories. As I got more money coming in I slowly added more goals and categories and it’s been so helpful. I even use YNAB to manage the income for the side jobs I have.
I tried to get my mom into it but I think it’s too complicated for her but since she has gotten her money management under control which is awesome!
Awesome to hear! I’ve seen you mention it before, Beth Anne, and it sounds really interesting. Perhaps you’ll convert me one day too 😉 Agreed that right now when I’m starting out is probably a great time to start!